You have to be aware of the thoughts before you can change the belief.
Stop letting blind people proofread your mission
Listening to everybody else and letting blind people proofread my vision. What I mean by that is going and asking your best friend and your mama and your husband and everything else about what you want to do in business. And also just paying attention to everyone around you, instead of actually. Focusing on your vision and your calling and what you really honestly want to do. And getting super, super clear on you. I guess my biggest achievement after I figured out that mistake was really finding one or two key people to pay attention to, to learn from, and actually not just pay attention blindly, like in the background, the actually get to know them and really trust who was giving me counsel and wisdom.
So not really scrolling on social media is a big one. And another one is if I do happen to come across someone I have a really big gift of discernment. I am just one of those people that can immediately tell in my gut if someone’s genuine or not. so I just listened to them for a few minutes and I can tell really quickly, like if they’re dishonest or not really genuine if they’re coming from a different place and that’s just me personally, I just have that gift. Also how they communicate with their audience, if it’s someone who I call it, farting and Darden, and I know that’s like really funny, but if they pop something in a Facebook group and then skedaddle, and then people are commenting and they never come back and interact with those people or engage with those people like that, to me, just shows that you’re really just showing up to seek approval. You’re not showing up to actually serve right.
My heart really wanted to serve, but I was just putting so much on my plate where I actually couldn’t start. I, it became a here’s me look what I’m doing. I’m here. To show up, type things. It was like I was going in a room farting and then running before anyone. So I was like partying and darting. so when I got really close with my containers and I started really paying attention and really simplifying where I was showing up to serve that got a lot easier. One of the things that I realized is we’ll talk about belief shifting content. Is that in my own belief? I thought when I show up. The people in my space. Also, I wanted them to act a certain way.
Omnipresence doesn’t work without depth or at the sacrifice of yourself. a lot of people fall into that kind of manipulation mask as serving an event or circumstance will happen. And if neutral, like everything is neutral until you have thought about it. And then that thought will cause you to feel a certain way. And then because we feel a certain way, we’re going to take certain actions. And then those actions are going to drive the results. A circumstance is a fact you can’t change it.
So let’s say it’s raining outside. Like I can’t go out and do anything I can be inside and I can be super productive. So I would have feelings. And then a lot of people operate as the circumstance or the event that happens and they have a feeling about it. And then because they have a feeling they’ll take certain actions and then those actions will cause a result. So if you ever want a different result, you’re going to go to your thought about it. I was trying to make decisions because I thought the emotion was going to come from the decision that I made. It was going to come from the actions that I made, but really it comes from the thought. I realized that when I worked in the Ctfar method, I was always trying to put my thoughts, my beliefs into someone else’s model.
So then I would get frustrated. And I remember my coach literally said to me, what you making them not are buying your program mean about you. But because I was having those thoughts, I was putting my worth. Into someone else’s hands. And the way that I visited my work as if they bought my service or not because I thought my service was a part of me. So I was literally thinking I’m not worth investing in instead of my offers, not worth investing in. And then when I literally changed that thought, because I know that wasn’t true. And so I completely changed my thought about it. So thoughts are like thoughts or beliefs are almost in the same category. A belief is something when you have the thought over and over again, and it becomes ingrained in your memory. So you have to be aware of the thoughts before you can change the belief. Thoughts are something that we are aware of. A belief is something we have subconsciously we have to take a little bit of digging into the thoughts that we’re having to get to the root belief. So a lot of the time I realized that a lot of us have the same beliefs. It’s just, our thoughts are worded a little bit different. And so for me, I pay attention to what I’m saying.. And sometimes it takes other people to see it. So sometimes you just have to go through and dig into the roots of different things. But that’s truly what I do. And so a lot of the time people come in my space. People don’t use affirmation the right way. They will just say it over and over again, but they don’t truly believe it. They haven’t got rid of the belief. The negative belief they have allows them to really understand the affirmation. And sometimes it does take someone coming in and seeing it for yourself. We need to really get out of this identity of putting labels. If there’s nothing, you’re not changing anything. Awareness is the secret.