I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.” – Jim Carrey
Creating meaning in your personal life and business
We grow into the person we want to be, and this is a daily process. It doesn’t happen over night. We grow into becoming a better father or mother, a husband or wife, skilled at what our craft is. It’s a process. Becoming a leader is also a process and one that is constant.
I spoke to Dominick Quartuccio who is an amazing human being. He left his 15 year corporate career to become an entrepreneur. People ask him all the time when they know about this and say: “You got sick and tired of the rat race, eh?”, to which he says, “Not at all.” I never felt part of the “rat race.”. He know focuses on creating environments where others can thrive.
Leading by Example (at everything)
Dominick works with a lot of leaders that are very successful and what they are constantly asking him for when they bring him into work with their teams, is how does he get his people to get more done? You know.
How do I get them to work with more urgency? How do I hold them accountable?
And those are three relevant questions, but they’re the wrong ones, because none of those questions are addressing the most important person in the room, which is the leader themselves.
You have to first ask yourself, how is the leader mastering the art of leading him or herself first before trying to impose their leadership style upon others.
Almost every time that he went into an organization, small business or whatever, he found that the leader was embodying the very behaviors that they wished to either transform or vanquish in the people that they’re leading. So if they’re looking for urgency in their employees, they’re embodying the very lack of energy that they wish their employees demonstrate.
You have to first master the art of leading yourself before you start to inspire and impact others.
Finding Your Purpose as a Leader
People come to Dom seeking how they can find their purpose. There’s this belief, that purpose is some massive thing that exists way off in the future that requires years or decades or a lifetime to experience. Dominick played that game for many years in his life, constantly feeling like it was out there and not inside of us.
Purpose is really lived on every day through inspired action, through feeling and it can be lit up in the mundane parts of our existence, we can be lit up knowing that I’m chopping wood and carrying water.
Buddhist philosophy of the path to enlightenment is chopping wood carrying water. And if you can find peace and reverence in the smallest of things, ’cause you know what it’s in service of others. That happens here, today. Every moment single moment you chose to look at it, that’s available.
He made the shift of, purpose is not this big thing, that’s separate for me in the future, but it’s here right now.
Days become much more vibrant. Then, days became more mysterious and exciting. It was like every day there was a new gift to open up if I chose to see it.
So here is a process that you can use to understand yourself as a leader where you are and where you’d like to go.
Step 1: Pattern Interrupting
First, ask yourself what do you feel? Then, stop yourself for a minute as the viewer of your life and become the director of your life.
Step 2: Ask yourself what do I want to feel.
Step 3: Find your outlet to express and create what you want to feel.
Find your way, your tools, and you will get there.