My current why is summarized as my pursuit of self-awareness and self-acceptance and the practice of building myself into an asset.
One of the biggest reasons I struggled for years in life and in entrepreneurship is because I didn’t have any long goals. Zig Ziglar talked about this a ton. And he said, and I’m paraphrasing here. He said, I’ve never met somebody depressed or with anxiety that had a long-term clear goal. I’ve only met people that were depressed or with anxiety because they weren’t clear on where they wanted to go.
And when I think about my past, my journey, my life, and every moment where there was a struggle where there was resistance, where there was depression or anxiety was due to my disconnection from a goal and measuring the moment I was measuring the moment and I struggled. There’s still a lot of work that I practice on myself with consistency of putting in the work of releasing codependent tendencies, releasing my insecurity is my constant need for validation. And here’s, what’s beautiful about this is now what I’ve realized is that the moment I get clear on my sovereignty on my world of my vision on where I want to go. And I’m clear on why I want to do it. That little boy feels loved because I’m loving myself. And I’ve also realized that every moment that I’ve had a struggle or I’ve projected, or I make condescending comments, or I use sarcasm as a way to not authentically share my feelings is because I’m disconnected from my, why. I talk about wise all the time, because I want to surround myself with it because I feel like I still have a lot of practice to embody it. And there’s times that I feel like a walking in congruency because I do struggle with daily practices. Sometimes I do struggle with getting really deep into my why.
So what I’ve noticed is that the most success in business, the most success in my relationships, the most success in my mindset has come from when I’m willingly plugged into my why. And would I willingly plug into my why? I feel safe knowing that I’m doing the work that I want to be doing and I’m building what I want to be building. And only I am responsible for doing that. And it’s the moment I get disconnected from that. Why in business, in life, in relationships and friendships, that little boy comes out unhealed and wounded screaming for attention. And I’m actually creating the opposite vision of what I want by not being connected with my why.
And so why or why so important for me, they’re important because it’s the unlimited fuel source, right? Like we think about entrepreneurship. We think about business, we’re doing things that. Haven’t been done before. We’re creating paths that haven’t been paved before. We’re clearing a road that’s nobody’s ever cleared before we’re driving through a mountain that everybody was said was impossible.
We’re, we’re launching iPhones, we’re going to the moon, and we’re doing these things. And in those things are guaranteed resistance. There’s guaranteed roadblocks. There’s guaranteed flat tires. Like it’s not Oh, I hope it doesn’t happen. It’s a matter of when not if right. And I have noticed that every time I’ve been hit with resistance or a roadblock, or even this year of almost losing it all during the world, or last year during the craziness of the world, the moment I plug into my, why I look at it as like a chapter in the book or just a fumble in the game and I can play another play. And the moment I can plug into, I said, I wanted to do this for this reason is this a part of the game to achieve this vision and the symphony game and the answer’s? Yes that always grounds me and brings me back to center. It’s like the keel. If you have a sailboat, there’s a really deep keel that keeps the boat from flipping over. It goes deep in the water and the bigger the boat, the bigger the keel, and it holds it constant its ability to like use wind as a tool and a propellant instead of wind as the thing that flips the boat over. Is the keel it’s that run of its deep, deep down. That’s holding it there and it’s turning resistance into a tool.
And in my opinion, wise, turn resistance into a tool. They turn resistance and what could be seen as shortcomings or challenges or failures into possibilities and momentum and positive things. Based on the depth of your rudder or in this case, your why. And so for me, when I look back at, when business got started to get really easy business, started to get really easy. When I was really clear on why I was doing what I was doing and I would check in with it daily. And so Why have played a very critical part in my life and they’ve played a part of my life and a lot of lives of other people around me, like personal development trainings. I’ve done men’s work, couples, work, embodiment, work, meditation practices, plant medicine, and work like there are many modalities of the things that we look out to every day. And then we practice every day that are all rooted in this deep meaning of why an unattached to the outcome. And in that moment is when the outcome is created because we are aligned and aligned.
The one commonality that every single successful person that I look up to that I idolized that coaches me that I know, in my own success has come down to a relentless pursuit of self-awareness self-healing and self-sovereignty and my ability to be self-aware and then put it into practice. Only as possible for me when I am really clear on why I’m here, why I exist and why I’m doing what I do. And me doing what I do allows me to reparent and grow on my own without having to publicly own it by helping other people.
so what I’ve realized now is that why do I do what I do? I am pursuing my passion and alignment so that I can heal myself through helping the world and business and entrepreneurs and everything that I do to then be solid and become a servant and to become a true giver. And I believe in my heart that I’m a true giver. I believe in my heart that I give away from the best places, but there are times that I give away from the best places. And then I’m left with feelings that don’t aren’t ideal because in the moment it was from the best place, but it opened up a wound of wow.
So my why number one is that I genuinely believe that I belong here. That I can make a difference in that all of my life experiences have given me a particular set of skills and tools to first heal myself to then give it away. And then the second reason I’m here is to heal that self, to become self-aware self practicing, self sovereign, whatever I said earlier that rhymed and then show up in a manner for my family in the same context that allows them in their power and in their happiness and in their true forms and in their true selves. And then I can give that away to entrepreneurs and businesses, but my true defined why right now, in this moment, on this day that I am recording this and this day that you are listening to this, it will be the same. My current, why is summarized as my pursuit of self-awareness and self-acceptance and the practice of building myself into an asset. That’s my why right now. And that’s how I see wise. And my current level of growth is embodying my why? Like from going from words on a paper to believing it in my soul, to going from words, to being this an action to be silent, but still embody it to be in people’s presence and have them feel light and love and heart.
The moment I’m clear on my why. And I have a gratitude practice. It’s like everything around me, conspires for me to be successful. Because I’m in alignment if I’m having a gratitude practice, but I’m not connected to my why nothing works if I have my why, but I’m not grateful and aware of what’s around me and having gratitude practice, nothing works when I’m clear on my why. I have so much to be grateful for in my life. My wife being the number one, who also gets the short end of the stick when I’m in my crap and insecure my children who are an absolute gift to witness. Growing into their own people, my friends and my team that stand in everything and this vision impossibility with me while accepting me as I am and riding this rollercoaster with me, you listening to this right now for deconstructing a bad paradigm or belief or image that I’ve had around myself and also the. The belief that when I’m raw and vulnerable and authentic.