The man that we build every day is the man that we present to the world. Creating and discovering our voice, the power of that is you have to be present.
Not having a true voice
About a year ago, where whether it was childhood hurt or there was insecurity, whether it was fear, whether it was being afraid to be bold, be courageous, everything that was external for me, external success, leaving my full-time job of almost a decade of teaching middle school and launching out for time into entrepreneurship. I got into this thing and I was like, wow, why am I afraid? To truly be me to show the full gamut of my journey as a man that just so happens to include being a most recent entrepreneur.
Not really understanding myself what I bring to the world and what my pain points are and seeing that that’s all a part of the total package of being a businessman that you can’t divorce, how you aren’t business from who you are on the inside and how we really do provide value to the world from the inside out. And so whenever that’s incongruent, you’re bound to have this amazing thing externally that people look at it and they apply it and amazing voice, national commercials, like all those cool stuff. But on the inside, you’re like either not happy or discontent or the people that you really care about.
Not sure to Hunt
The hardest thing for me it’s has been knowing when to hunt, like went like click that on and then knowing when to serve. And so that’s been tough for me because coming from a pretty conservative background having taught at private like Christian schools, like most of my life coming from a biblical framework. A lot of the language that a lot of times, people of faith have where you’re taught to serve, but it comes at the expense of your health and of yourself. And so your servitude, it’s a little idolatrous in that this, you began to believe that the more that you serve. The more value you have and the moment that your opportunity to serve is gone or you look around and you realize, wait a minute, I don’t even know what I lied. I don’t know myself. I don’t have a voice. I had a season in my life recently where I began to become really bitter at the process.
I have to know how to hunt and if I don’t go out there and kill it and bring it back home. an issue, not having that ability to dig deep and to see opportunity. And to not necessarily be someone who has the killer instinct or who was trying to be predatory in any way but how do I have this governor where I’m able to hunt when it’s time to hunt, but then be as gentle as a lamb when it was time to be as gentle as a lamb and serve. Finding that centeredness in a way has been a journey, man. So I’m still in the midst of it. Daily I succeed daily fail depending on what time of the day it is. But at the end of the day especially just where we are just like instead of the world, there has to be a level of tuition. Like if I’m not, aggressive, lovely, dissatisfied but then also, like, I understand and look, the way that you are going to get ahead or the way that you’re going to be able to continue to provide for your family is you have to be able to be a man who does it differently.
Building our profile
Your job is to still build the man that you give away every day. So it even comes down to the way that, I mean, in your world when it comes down to branding like the way in which people in their bio, you’re taught to have the thing that you want to be known as. So even in the world of voiceover, I had to learn.
But what would happen if you began to push the limits of that? If you wanted to do children’s book narrations? And so when I landed my first children’s book, narration gig, I was like, wow. If I pigeon hole myself to just doing nonfiction audiobooks for faith-based authors, I would have never had the range that I now have to be able to literally to pull in sound effects and create this whole, all the world for a child who’s in between the ages of five and 10 with these wacky voices where like my octave range is up like five.
I think that is so important to begin to shed that and come back to this place. Who am I before I think about all those things that I do write a teacher or a voiceover artist or a businessman those are things that I do? The man that we build every day is the man that we present to the world. But I would have even mentioned saying that even in my family, the man that I build every day is the man that I present even to the two most important people, like in my entire world. That is so profound because if I don’t. If I lose sight of my being, ultimately what our present is going to be diluted, and it’s not going to be as potent as it potentially could be if I were written out as I truly am.
This isn’t about exposing you. But this is really about, you being surgically like put back together. We are as educated as human beings to where, when we kind of get into a space of I can’t think that thought, or I can’t feel that because of, etc. It takes away like this beautiful experience for us to be so us. And so for us to figure ourselves and be like I’m this. You’re really taking away, like the beauty and the power of you being nuanced. And all of that nuance is a mosaic that you present to the world is beautiful.
The Hustle Culture
The truth behind that the optics of me being a person who is positive because again, most recently I’ve realized, that there was a big difference between being congruently positive, like really living that from the inside out as opposed to I have to be positive because I know people like positivity. And so what’s been so awesome. Is this is that as I’ve gone down the rabbit hole of a mindset and subconscious mind in all of these different things. I’ve realized for me to be positive or to radiate any kind of light. I have to plug into some kind of source like that. And so for me, it starts out like early in the morning, where I get up and between five and five 30, and I literally will spend an hour and a half to two hours, doing like a light workout, eat my breakfast and that really gets me in a space George, where anything that I’m anxious about for the day. Because as you go on business, you have a thousand and a million things going on and that can begin to creep into just you wake up and you allow care.
Hustle culture, I think has permeated this idea that if you’re not working 18 hours a day, then you’re not really doing it. That is not sustainable. And your wife, don’t like you, and you wonder why you’re a total jackass. Your body is not meant to keep up with that kind of pace life for too long.
Brendan Burchard put together this amazing high-performance journal. I have mine somewhere where literally male life the night before I go to this thing and I have to give account for my time. Making that jump from employee to entrepreneur where you walk in and from whatever time, eight to five, or in my case from seven 30 to two, I knew what my day was like. I knew what classes I had to teach. I knew the papers that I had to grey. I knew when all my breaks were, I knew played out further. I knew when Christmas break was coming up, summer break, like everything, my schedule, my time. It was almost like the thought of for me. I’ll plug it into a system. Whereas now it hit me in between the dog eyes was like, you now have to create this system.
And as a creator a guy who does like rainbows and sunshine, I think there’s like being a voiceover artist and in a video editor in these things. I think about movies. I literally made like here in our home, you know work from home and it’s one of those beautiful things where it’s I’m able to literally create all day every day, but literally what was going to prevent me from going farther in my business was having a system that I was held accountable to our some here recently, what was almost said, accountability is accounting for your ability. I can only be positive to the level, to which I have a sense of accountability. The most confident people that you could think of in your life. Are probably going to be the people who keep promises to themselves.
And so when I think about the days that I don’t keep the promise to myself to get up at a certain time to do a certain thing, whenever I say I’m going to do it, my confidence wanes, and thus my positivity wanes. And so my confidence isn’t necessarily in my ability, like to get it done. But it’s just, it’s something so simple and as small as keeping my word to myself. How can I ever keep my word to you if I don’t keep my word to my dog and myself? And so I think positivity is linked to confidence and confidence to me is, linked to accountability, like accountability for what you say you’re going to do and who you’re going to be. The level of happiness in your life is correlated to the depth of your practice.
I’m just so blown away at the process and in the evolution of our human experience, aware and jumping into entrepreneurship, becoming a business owner, like all these different phrases and like just pretty, but pretty much stepping away from the 9 to 5 life.
It hit me man, where it was like, wow, if I don’t deal with some of these internal things that I keep rubbing up against. So for example there was a period of time wherein terms of like clients or even like with my wife, this has been maybe at this point too three years ago where we were doing this YouTube channel. And we’re making like some great headway, like capturing family content, like encouraging people, yada yada, yada, and as a creative, she came into my world video editing, like documentation, and like all this cool stuff. And we began to butt heads where I felt like I don’t understand. And it began to hit on my insecurity. It began to hit on me not being able to relinquish that creative thing.
And so when you talk about being creative, I’ve had to understand that if I’m serving other people with my gift, that. When I step into this space, it really is about their vision. And they ask me to step into a different space where they’re asking me to consult or to give my professional opinion, then I’ll do that. But when I leave with that, because I’m still in a very elementary stage, a very infantile state in this journey. I will become insecure if I feel like I’m going to be rejected as something in some kind of way, I’ll feel like, okay. If I say what I think creatively, and they don’t like it, then that means something about me. And whenever that began to happen, I got to step back. Because that’s not even, that’s not even in the universal what’s actually happened. So what’s really going on here? Donna, you have some deep, he has security issues. And if you don’t deal with those things, there’s a business that you’re trying to build this world that you believe is for you to step into. For the rest of your days, that’s going to come crashing down because at the root of it is you don’t like you. So regardless of someone else steps into that role or not, you have to know.
Creativity in Nature
Whenever I look around me and I see this amazing, like glorious, like I, all of this that’s surrounded me put this thing together. The imperfection that are limited language and communication skills put on nature is the exact metaphor in which we should be living our life, which is that. All of us have our unique light signature or unique voice. And that voice is a gift to ourselves than to those around us and then to the world. And I think one of the challenges that I see in the world of entrepreneurship is the lack of self-awareness and work on self that I want.
All life is something good, but the more that I’ve just savoury things for myself and had the sacred moments. And you begin to see like that’s a really sacred moment. I like to be able to have a thought an idea to be inspiring or some kind of way to learn something and to be able to just chew on that thing and to savour it. Being able to see something coming and to be able to savoury, sleep on it. If maybe put a strategy around it to fortify yourself with a four to five, but how, like that really is there’s such a sacredness about that.
Learned about the power of a day and how there’s so much density to a day, like every moment that you have to breathe and to be present. And to use your extremities is such a blessing. Especially in culture today where either you fly, things are moving really fast or, the sky is falling or whatever, like wherever you choose to put your energy. There’s something to in discovering you have to be present.
We’ve given that up in exchange for what we feel like is going to give us satisfaction. And so I think that when we talk about discovering voice, I think that the power in that is you have to be present. And a lot of times being present requires you to, and you hit it on the head a few minutes ago. It requires you to own what you’re afraid to be present with what you are distracting yourself from. What pain you’re afraid to feel. Maybe even what positive feeling you’re trying to recreate that. Honestly, it is a man for you to recreate it. It was a sacred moment that you just need to enjoy. And once it’s done. And it’s not about trying to find the next high, but it’s about how do I be present and how do I enjoy what is.
I need to be more present because if I’m more present, I can be more effective. I can love more deeply. I can serve at a much deeper and higher level and I can really create value that has been like. I don’t even believe that I create this much value. If I’m truly being present, I can run the other people around me better if I’m truly present.