limitless is not about being perfect. Limitless is about advancing and progressing beyond what you believe is possible.
Superhero archetype and the journey and hero’s journey You go from this kind of ordinary world can introduce to an extraordinary world and you face dragons and demons, and he had a mentor. You find your Yoda or your Miyagi or someone along the way. And some point you come back and you share that elixir or that treasure with the rest of the world.
I think a lot of people could obviously, have a lot of these struggles, but hopefully, some of these struggles led to the strengths where a lot of people thought maybe 2020 was a year. They get everything they wanted. And I think a lot of people found that they discovered that they appreciated what they, everything that they had, and that was definitely for me. One of the difficult times as I have hundreds of them that to be able to pull from, but was the launch of the book limitless.
It was my first book and you and I had a brainstorm, a number of things, just her earlier in that process. And I waited a long time to put out my life’s work and. I wanted it to be something special. Life is the sea between B and D. B as birth D as death, see life is choice. And then I really do believe that these difficult times could define us or they could diminish us, or they could develop us what we decide with the choices we make. So the choices I made when that happened was to change everything to really refocus, not have a kind of pity party and just really think, see where things are going reach out to our community move things to digital and more remote, wherever, remote virtual book, parties and tours, and spend more time on our podcast and our social media. I’m really alive events person he knew. And I have had the opportunity to share a stage multiple times
So it was a change. It changed for the good, we were able to do more, reach more people during that time because I wasn’t on planes and that you and I, and we used to travel all the time. I’m not familiar with and everything else like that. So it, it built and I feel like that it became ended up being a success by the way. We control our focus. We control what these things mean. We control what we’re going to do. We control even how we feel about things. And then just I love the metaphor of a lighthouse and I just feel like that, that those so that we can be an example that the life we live in the lessons we teach others. And we can be a lighthouse for other people who are going through storms in their life who are going through some foggy times, some darkness. And sometimes our scars end up being a lighthouse for other people also as well
I would imagine a lot of people who are here with us, had the experience where they read a page in a book and then just forgot what they just read. And their mind walking wanders, they have trouble concentrating. And one of the reasons why I feel like is just because of two reasons, number one, we’re driven to distraction with our devices. We’re always flexing that distraction muscle. We’re always going from Slack to Texas and social media, to all these different things. And, our attention span, some people say are shrinking and getting smaller and, but. Besides that some of us, when we’re studying something where sometimes we’re processing it too slow and it’s possible that we go too slow and it’s I don’t know, riding a bicycle really slow to riding and really slow.
You start to wobble and you could even fall if you’re going too slowly. And the brain we know is this incredible supercomputer man when we read or we study something, we’re feeding it. So one word add. Time, and metaphorically we’re, we might be even starving our own mind.
And if we don’t give our mind the stimulus, it needs, it’ll seek entertainment elsewhere in the form of distraction. And it’s interesting because when you’re going really slowly like you’re driving really slow. When you’re going super slowly, you could be drinking your coffee and texting and, having a chat with somebody thinking about something else. And so when you’re racing a car, you’re not going, you’re not doing those. You’re not trying to multitask. You’re thinking of the act of driving and what’s in front of you.
So just when you think about limitless, what’s truly limitless is there is no limit to our imagination. These demonstrate in limiter creativity, there’s no limit to human connection and our ability to come together and difficult times, there are no limits to human. Our data has persevered. power becomes powerful when we apply it. so a quick exercise that only takes three minutes to do is every night is just to take two, three minutes and just review your day. And this is something called your episodic memory.
Your episodic memory is that the episodes of your life. So if you have trouble remembering what you had for breakfast or what you wore that day or who you talk to, then this is the principle, and there’s always a promise behind every principle. And the principle is there is no such thing as a good or bad memory. As a trained memory and an untrained memory, as you mentioned, people want to go to the gym, but you don’t go to the gym once and you’re physically fit for life. Your brain, your mental muscles, like you want your physical muscles stronger and more energized, more flexible, more agile faster. You want your mental muscles to be the one-term memory to be sharper. You want your thinking to be clearer? What your mental endurance, you want to get rid of that brain fog. And so you need to be able to exercise. Go through and just walk yourself through that day. And the more you do it after a few days get easier and you start to build it because, and the reason why it’s not just our facts and figures and for whatever you’re remembering, but just remember your life.
Another thing I do for my brain. That’s really can move the needle for a lot of people is obviously prioritizing your sleep. And that goes without saying, especially, when you’re stressed. It’s interesting. We actually, neuroplasticity actually has been shown to happen when you’re sleeping. Just like when you don’t build a muscle when you work out you build when you rest, and we know that, but same thing with your long-term memory and all your memory, muscles, neuroplasticity is happening after you give it a novelty and you feed it in nutrition, it happens when you sleep. So really prioritize your sleep. One of the things I do fun with before I go to sleep, it helps me sleep. I had a lot of stress around it because of my breathing disorder and I would tend to wear C-PAP and all this, really sexy stuff to go to bed with. I would actually do this gratitude thing where after I go through three minutes of what my day was, I’ll pull up one, two, or three things that just were really special. And that gratitude puts you, has been shown to put you in a rest and digest parasympathetic mode for people who know that. And it just helps me to just connect with myself. I also do this kind of gratitude thing where I just go down and scan my body toes to the top of my head and just be grateful for those parts of my body. I think if people want to feel wealthy that if you don’t want to feel desperate and trying to need something, start from a place of wealth. Because our thoughts are like the language of our mind, but our feelings are like the language of our body. And if you don’t want to feel separate from what you want out there, maybe just feel gratitude for all the stuff that you do have, and it creates a great foundation. And one of the ways to feel wealthy is just I’ll do an exercise at night, which is still good for my mind cause it’ll help it. Give me like the wind down a little bit and just say what are all the things I have in my life that money can’t buy that I wouldn’t trade for millions of dollars. Relationships or your ability to breathe or be able to see these little things. And which are the big things. And then I will. I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced this shortage. You have to get up particularly early and you set an alarm clock and you wake up within minutes of four 30 or whatever or seconds even. And that’s the power of your mind. That’s the power of setting an intention, even unconsciously before you go to bed.
And what if we use that same potential to be able to introduce a new. Question something maybe that you want to solve may be in your business, maybe a new way of innovating. That means something personal in a family. You want to be able to come up with, a solution for something or a decision you need to make. What if you pose that question while you’re in that relaxed state of awareness before going to bed, and you tap into the same potential as your ability to wake up within moments of an alarm going off? What if you asked yourself that question and not ruminate over it? But you’re literally, think about it and then just release it. And then we find that one of the best ways of amazing ways of innovating is through our dream States.
And so the first thing I do for my memory when I wake up is I remember my dreams, I go through and I decide to remember my dreams. Like I set an intention that I’m going to, when I’m, the night before I’m going to have great dreams, I’m going to remember them. I just make sure also I write them after I, get up. Yeah. By my bed. I have a, I’m a gratitude journal and a dream journal, like two journalists by my bed. So it’s very easy. I think it’s so important. We’ve all heard the phrase. First you create your habits. And your habits create you, right? I think it’s so important for habit. And we do a whole chapter in the book on creating habits and breaking old habits is to make things that are good for you, easy and to make the things that are not good for you difficult. It’s if you don’t want to touch your phone that first half an hour or two a day like that, we talk about, because it rewires your brain for distraction and reaction and all that stuff than just not having the phone there. Or having an analog clock, it just makes it easier because you set it up.
I want to remind all our entrepreneurs, friends, who do already read a lot of non-fiction books. They’re there to read fiction. There’s a real benefit to reading fiction books. It’s something that I resisted for a long time. My books are primarily in a hundred percent non-fiction books and every category you can imagine, but I’m taking time, it’s actually been shown to boost your EEQ. Your, I, it gives up about IQ. We don’t hear a lot about EQ emotional intelligence. You’re a level of empathy. You’re storytelling through narrative, which is so important for marketing and, and building, as an entrepreneur to be able to imagine and create. And I believe these are the real limitless things because there is no limit, limitless is not about being perfect. Limitless is about advancing and progressing beyond what you believe is possible. And then things that are truly limitless are the things that are going to be outsourced to a machine. They’re not going to go to a computer AI, and automated, it’s, there’s no limit to our creativity, no limit to our imagination.