To win the game and those around us help us do that to play our best game and we get to help those people around us play there best game.
The Myth of the Solopreneur
There is no such thing as a solopreneur. And if somebody tells you that they did it themselves run far away, somebody coaching you, somebody teaching, like I did it myself. They’re like the creepy man in the candy van. There is no such thing as a solopreneur. And this is a lesson that it took me 33 years to learn. I pretended to do it myself. I pretend that I could do it myself, but I realized that I was only successful because of all those people around me. And the faster I realized that team is the secret that none of us can do this alone. The faster I started to succeed and I could be cliche there’s no I in team. But it doesn’t matter where you are, whether you’re launching your business, whether you’ve never launched one, whether you’re starting, no matter where you are on this life, you did not get here alone. The people that have been in your life have given you the tools, the feedback.The inputs required for you to be who you are in this moment.
We are surrounded by people who are committed to our success when we open our eyes to see it. one of the things that took me a long time to realize is that I wasn’t born a champion. I’m not born the greatest. None of us are, we’re all born with the ability, but we build ourselves to get there and we build ourselves over and over day in and day out. And there’s a lot of people that encourage us that support us and even contribute to our growth when we choose to pay attention. And the faster that I learned to lean in to ask for support and to also encourage others in reaching their goals, the faster everything started to work in my life, and there’s still pockets today.
I learned that one of the reasons that I struggled with asking for help is because asking for help to required real authenticity, real vulnerability. We’re human beings. We are tribal creatures. We are designed to love and support each other. We thrive off the positive energy momentum. We thrive off community. We feel safer with those around us. We are a part of something and our job is to lean in and be a part of that.
And our job is to show up and realize that there is no such thing as a solopreneur, my skin cringes, because I used to believe it. And the truth was is the feedback I got is that when I was a quote unquote solopreneur, nobody around me felt like they mattered. Everybody felt less than felt unsupported that I was taking and not contributing. And I had a chip on my shoulder thinking I could do it myself. And that somehow if I said I made a million dollars or $10 million all by myself, that it would somehow change my value. And it was so misaligned, misrepresented, and so far off from who I wanted to be and what really was required for me to take a step back and realize it’s a gift to be able to ask for help. It’s a privilege to have so many amazing human beings in my life. And those that are all contributing to the success of the mission, not my success, I’m just a messenger. I’m a part of a cog in a wheel. There are other parts and I’m doing my part. They’re doing their part and we’re going together, but there is no such thing. In my opinion as a solopreneur. And so my focus for you and my focus for me this week is to take a minute, to find somebody every day, that is a part of my team and go out of my way to speak their love language, to thank them, to acknowledge them, to support them, wherever that shows up. And then to love and support and encourage myself because there is no such thing as a solopreneur, but there is an entrepreneur or a human being like yourself that is willing to play the game, willing to take the licks and willing to get in the arena. As Bernay Brown says to win the game and those around us help us do that to play our best game and we get to help those people around us play their best game.