What we do see depends mainly on what we look for. In the same field the farmer will notice the crop, the geologists the fossils, botanists the flowers, artists the colouring, sportmen the cover for the game. Though we may all look at the same things, it does not all follow that we should see them
What was I looking for?
I’ve been struggling this morning. I’ve had a lot of tears feeling the weight of the world, the pressure, lots of internal dialogue that I get to work through today. I get to breathe through. And I remember that I was meditating on this code. I was writing about this quote for an email yesterday and the quote was what we see depends mainly on what we’re looking for.
And so this morning I had to take a moment and reflect, and I’d asked myself, what was I looking for? And in the exploration of that, I found what I was looking for. I was looking for sadness. I was looking for a reason to not succeed. I was looking for a moment of frustration. I was looking for evidence to believe the crappy subconscious programming that’s running in the supercomputer of my brain is Jim Kwik Gosset.
I was not feeling good. And so I went and looked for evidence that what I was feeling was right, and that there was enough around me to justify that I looked at the last couple of days, my actions, after I finished the challenge and I started finding every single hole that I could find to stack up as evidence against myself. Until I caught it. And when I caught it, I realized that’s what I was looking for. And I mean, I went through the gamut like you did 75 hard, you completed it. You’ve been drinking a gallon of water. You’ve been doing your workouts, you added strength and your body’s changing. You’re doing it. And how dare you eat that bagel yesterday. And you know that cheesecake last night that you shared with your family, well, you were being grumpy and mean to all of them because you were beating yourself up. Like there was a lot that happened. And it all simply happened because of what I was choosing to see.
I am forgiving myself for beating myself up and then projecting that on others, around me and then gaslighting and blaming them for my down for my sad for my places. And what I’m choosing to do is to refocus and to see the things that I choose to see you’re going to help me move forward.
What you resist persists…
John Lubbock said “what we do see depends mainly on what we look for. In the same field, the farmer will notice the crops. The geologists will notice the fossils, the botanists will notice the flowers, the artists will notice the colors and the sportsmen, the cover for the game though, we may all look at the same things”.
It does not all follow that we should see them. And so what really is the difference between failure and success? It’s perspective. It’s what we choose to see. And one of the things I’ve learned as a human and not even necessarily just an entrepreneur, is that whatever it is that we choose to see, we’ll find it because we create things.
If we choose to see success, we’ll find it. And if we choose to see failure, we’ll find it. We can look at things as rejection or realignment. We can look at things like speed bumps or brick walls. We can look at things at successes or failures and how we see those things is wholeheartedly defined by what we choose to look at and look for to support that thought.
And so today, I’m going to choose to find all my wins, all the colors, all the beautiful things, all the love, the compassion, the joy, and I’m going to ground myself in those things that I find. And then if I happen to come across a thought, if I happen to find something that is an ideal, I’ll acknowledge its existence, and then I’ll look elsewhere.
There’s a famous quote that said in the personal development world a lot, and it says what you resist persists. And what that basically means is what you focus on. You will get more of. And so if I spent the rest of my day focusing on sadness and depression and anger and shortcomings and fault and blame and guilt and shame, I’m just going to get more of it times 10.
But at this moment, I’ve acknowledged and recognized that’s where I was this morning. And that’s where I’ve been for a couple of days. Choose to focus on movement, progress, focus, joy, love, connection, and I’m going to find him cause that’s what I’m looking for.